Love Abides Always

Love abides. Always. You must ask yourself, am I in love or am I in fear?

When you are feeling pain and longing due to physical distance or a lack of communication with your partner, you are not in love. You are in fear. Love abides.

Love is a continuous flow of energy, ever present, ever strong, always available to you. What ebbs and flows is your ability, or willingness, to tap into it.

Love abides. Always. Relationships may have loving qualities to them, but they are not love. They are constructs created by humans in an attempt to contain and control. As if one could contain the Earth, the ocean, the galaxies. Love is more expansive and more fluid, more all-encompassing than all of these. Love is the light of stars. It is the empty spaces in between. 

Love is stronger than human constructs. You cannot bend love to shape it to match your will and meet your demands. Love bends and reshapes you.

So if you are in love, then that is all. There is nothing that needs to be done. All is well.

Your love for your partner will abide, always, regardless of whether or not you are in a committed relationship. The gifts you have received from your coupling can never be taken away from your heart. They are magical totems that you always carry with you. Can you allow yourself to stand in love even if you are uncoupled?

When you feel the pain of separation, can you recognize it as the illusion that it is and remember that you have the ability to choose love? Choose love. 

Love abides. Always. Love can withstand the distractions and obstacles laid down in its path. 

Spaces, sometimes needed, other times blocks put up by the ego, are no match for love. Are you disinterested, bored, or frustrated with your partner and her way of being? That is allowed. Love abides. You can choose to see them as reasons to leave the relationship, or as opportunities to tap deeper into the wellspring of love’s endless enduring energy. You may leave or you may stay. There is no right nor wrong answer. We will not tell you what to do. We will tell you to seek the answers within your own heart.

There is nothing wrong with moving apart, coming back together, and moving apart again. As long as you are doing so for your own growth, and not intending to harm, withhold, or control your partner, as long as you both agree, so long as know the ‘why’, there is nothing unhealthy or dangerous about this. There is actually a divine beauty in giving each other the freedom to do just that. It is perfectly fine to do so as often as you need, until you no longer need to separate, or no longer need to couple. Will you choose to let human constructs and ideals define the rules of your relationship, or will you choose to let love do that?

Please do this. Find a place in nature where the earth is soft. Using a stick, draw a large heart in the earth. Now step inside that heart. Take a seat, or remain standing. Say to yourself. “I am in love. I am the wellspring. I choose love.” Stay there as long as you need as you contemplate your situation. Let LOVE (not fear) show you the way. Will you choose the path she sets before you?