You Choose Your Mother

Before your life on earth begins, you choose your mother. Your mother chooses your father. But you choose your mother. And so you knew her before you were born. You saw who she was in truth, and you chose to come into your life through her. Why did you choose your mother?

Sometimes you choose your mother for your own growth. For the parent that she will be can teach you much about yourself. Other times, you choose your mother because you feel great love and compassion for the woman that she is, or is becoming. Your presence in her life will teach her more about her own capacity to love. And sometimes, you choose your mother because you simply need a vessel through which to emerge anew into the world at a particular time and place. So your mother is the second most important choice you make as you begin this life. The first was the choice to begin at all. For you know that choosing to come into life on Earth will mean a separation of identity for a period of time, and that separation begins the very moment you choose life.

You are drawn to your mother by the sound of your own heart beating. This is not your mother’s heartbeat. Nor is it the fluttering in the womb of cells that are forming into heart tissue. But instead, it is the moment at which the heart creates its own resonance.

The sounds of small hearts beating are magnetic calls that spark the intention to take on a human form. There can be many calls and many answers. There can be many connections and just as many disconnections. There is nothing lost. How could there be? There is no mandate, merely an opportunity. The choice has always been yours.

Birth is painful. Your mother will remember the physical pain, but for you, the pain of separation is the first wound of your life. Your departure from the womb is symbolic of your separation from oneness. It is traumatic. It is messy. It is scary. You are deposited into a body you don’t know how to use and are utterly dependent upon a human being who doesn’t quite know what to do with you. Amid this chaos, you begin to forget who you are. Because of this, you start to seek wholeness outside of yourself the moment you leave the womb.

Many carry into adulthood the unconscious notion that their mothers are Source. It is rare for a child to escape this deception. After all, your mothers sustains you for many years, and the child, forgetting who they really are, transfers their desire for oneness onto their mother. 

But no matter how wise, kind, or loving your mother may be, she is not your Source. No matter how inattentive, distant, selfish, or narcissistic your mother may be, she is not your Source. 

When you unconsciously hold the notion that your mother is Source, you feel wounded when your she fails to meet your expectations. You may not even realize you feel wounded. You may suppress your feelings because it doesn’t feel right to resent that which you regard as Source. Even as you begin to awaken to the realization that your mother is not your Source, the desire for a deep, divine connection with her lingers. This process, the second separation from your mother, may take many decades. It can even continue into different lifetimes and dimensions. Is this not also a profound symbol? What you are doing is returning to your true Source. This is also a birth. And it can be painful.

How will you navigate through this rebirth? The choice still belongs to you. How will you reemerge? Can you do so while holding compassion and respect for yourself and the being whose body was the Divine vessel for your life as you know it? Can you enter into this new dimension with gratitude for all that your mother has done and been? Can you offer her grace and forgiveness for all that she has not been or done? Can you offer it to yourself? Can you choose LOVE?

A FOOTNOTE: Let no one have you believe that you are an accident or a mistake. You are Divine Intention manifesting itself. You were always a part of THE PLAN.